Sunday we discussed the Five Stages of Grief after the Hurricanes season came to an end Saturday night. You may have been in denial watching the Canes skate off the ice that evening. Perhaps you just couldn’t believe you’d have to wait until fall for their return. Once the janitor tapped you on the shoulder and told you to hit the road, you transitioned into the second stage of grief…anger. A couple days have passed, and you may now be experiencing the bargaining step of Elisabeth Kübler- Ross’ grieving process.
This is the fun period of self-torturing questions:
“If I only hadn’t shaved my beard this morning.”
“If the coaching staff had only fixed the Canes’ power play woes earlier.”
“If Staal would have only been healthy.”
It also includes compromising offers of:
“Dear hockey gods, I promise to be less critical of the coaching staff if you can just give the Canes a second chance.”
“I promise to never pummel another Buffalo’s fan if the Canes can make the playoffs next season.”
“What if I make a huge donation to Kids ‘N Community? Then maybe we will do even better next year.”
Ok, that last thought isn’t a bad idea.
Bargaining is often finding faults in yourself, others or the situation. Clearly not a joyful time, this is why the next step is depression. Depression hurts like a puck to the gut. You may be sad now, but true depression may kick in unexpectedly down the road.
I can almost see it. It’s a hot, summer day in North Carolina. You are enjoying a cold one with your buddies. They are cheering and cursing along with their favorite baseball or football team. You chime in, but a piece of your heart aches for the nonstop action of a cold hockey rink. You mentally pull up a calendar and count the weeks until October.
Breath deep Caniacs, once you have accepted the season is over, you let go of your anger, ceased your bargaining, and dealt with the depression it is smooth sailing. Acceptance is the final step of Elisabeth Kübler- Ross’ Five Stages of Grief.
Cardiac Cane will spend the off-season satisfying your every Hurricanes craving. We will reflect on past memorable moments, highlight 2011-12 players, follow the NHL awards in Vegas, drafts, and so much more! Please leave a comment if there is something in particular you would like to see on the site this summer.